You need to make a major change in your life. Do you make it all at once, cold turkey style, or incrementally?
It can take awhile to make a significant change in ones life. Because a new habit needs to be formed. And that takes time.
I suppose there are odd cases where someone changes instantaneously. For example, Sidney Carton, a main character in Tale Of Two Cities by Charles Dickens comes to mind. Sidney does an about face and sacrifices himself so that another man may live. A selfish man by all accounts he changes places with a prisoner of the French Revolution, Charles Darnay, and is guillotined for his trouble.
This is a fictional work, of course, but it suggests that such a thing is possible. And it is inspiring to think that we can make dramatic changes in the way we think and act. And so this book has been read and made into at least one movie over the years even though it is not an easy read.
In most cases we do not have the opportunity to change so dramatically in a short time. We are given many opportunities to fall back if we decide to give up a bad habit. Try to lose weight, for example, and someone is offering you apple pie and ice cream at least twice a week.
I did manage to lose 60 pounds in the past 18 months just by walking on a daily basis. I have walked across the United States if you add up all the miles and a habit has definitely been formed that will (hopefully) prevent me from going the other way again. I suppose if someone had chopped off my head I could have done the same thing in an afternoon. But what would have been the fun of that?
For most of us the daily struggle is more important as an avenue towards becoming a better person. There is too much drama all around us. Books, television and the movies make us feel it is the most important thing.
It’s not. Dickens was great author and his works are remembered by the world. But we write the book about our own situation and few will read it. Not enough drama! Thankfully!